Who is the Bully?

In class today we began talking about bullying and the real definition of who the bully actually is. Society leads us to believe that the bully is someone who deep inside has been hurt and is now taking it out on someone else. And this could be true in some cases, but, quite frankly I don't think that's as common as people might think. Doctor Glassman briefly mentioned in class about a documentary based on real life bullying. I looked up the trailer to the movie (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z3MTOjKmLXw) and in just three short minutes I already had thoughts, opinions, and feelings floating around in my head. In this specific video, I saw high school students and the ways in which they were beginning to be bullied. We talked about the ways that society strays from focusing on the bullying taking place in high schools. It's easy for us to focus on elementary and middle school students being bullied, but it's less appealing to take a look at just a few years later. The stereotypical picture that pops in to most peoples' heads when hearing the word bully is the Hollywood version of the big, scary, downright mean kid who is acting this way solely because they feel lonely or upset. Personally, this is not a real life bully. The everyday bully is the one who appears nice, and clean and like they have all everything they've ever wanted. They are the 'popular' person, with piles of friends and thousands of followers. Maybe they're the football player, or looked up to as the school hero. Bottom line is, the bully is manipulative. They may be the teachers' pet or the star athlete of the week. Just because we've studied the bully as having underlying problems as the source and cause of their actions, I don't find that to be true the majority of the time. I think the bully can just be someone who puts others down because they can. Because they have basically everything they need to be able to. They have plenty of friends and support, and they feel strong and powerful. Basically, I think it's more important for our society to understand there's more than one way to define a bully. What that definition is...I'm not so sure.